Time is a commodity we never seem to have enough of. Taking care of your children, holding down a job, and juggling chores and social obligations are enough to keep you so busy that you forget to spend alone time with your significant other. While taking time out for your partner can sometimes feel like just one more thing you need to do, it is important to realize the value of this time in nurturing your relationship and keeping it strong. The relaxing and fun moments you have with your partner are critical to surviving the occasional bumps in the road you experience as a couple. Below are some suggestions for ways to take time out for your significant other.
Create an Intimate Night in– With some planning, you can create a night in as enjoyable as one you could have out on the town. Once you have put the kids to bed early, change into your best outfit and open a bottle of wine. Then, make your partner’s favorite meal (or order in) and dine by candlelight to set a romantic mood. Afterward, you can watch a movie both of you have been wanting to see while cuddling on the couch.
Work Out Together– Working out always seems to go more quickly when you have someone with you, and what better person than your partner? Many gyms offer childcare services, which will give you both time to play racquetball, run on the treadmill, or lift weights. As a bonus, breaking a sweat together just may put your mind on bedroom activities for later on in the day.
Take a Vacation– There is no better way to spend quality time with someone than when you are away from the rush of your everyday lives. Family vacations that offer some options for child care, such as cruises and ski resorts, are highly recommended for some additional alone time.
As a mom on the go, you may feel like there is just not enough time in the day to get everything done. Are you so tired from housework, running your kids to various practices, and social obligations that you aren’t taking any time out to take care of yourself? If that is the case, read on for some tips for saving time in your day.
Put down your phone. Between social media pages and online games, a quick glance at your phone can easily turn into an hour frittered away. One way to minimize phone distraction is to turn off all of the alerts in your applications. This way, your phone won’t buzz every time one of your friends posts a Tweet. You can also consider using a tool such as HootSuite, which will consolidate all of your social media postings in one place for quick, easy catch-up. Finally, set aside a specific, limited, designated time each day to spend on social media or gaming.
Consider efficiency. Are you being as efficient as possible when running errands? If you find yourself running to the grocery store several times each week, the answer is likely no. Try planning your meals for the entire week out in advance, making a grocery list, and shopping for everything at once. Not only will you save time on trips to the store, but you will no longer have to think about what to make for dinner each day during the week. Another alternative for saving time is ordering groceries online. Many supermarkets are now delivering food right to your doorstep and/or doing the shopping for you so you can just pay, put the groceries in your car, and go.
Examine your organization. If you often find yourself searching for missing items, you are wasting valuable time in your day. Think about things that are frequently misplaced, such as keys, eyeglasses, or shoes, and set up designated spots to place them in daily, so you will always know where they are.
When you have small children to care for, it can be extremely challenging to find time for a sex life. Not to mention that changes in your body, coupled with sheer exhaustion, can leave you feeling less than attractive. With all you are juggling, if you notice your partner looking at you, you might be more likely to assume there is a spot of dried-up formula on your shirt than you would be to think they are looking for a zesty session in the bedroom. If this sounds familiar, read on to find some suggestions on reigniting your sexual spark.
Have realistic expectations for yourself. You may someday return to your pre-baby weight, or you may not, and you should know that both scenarios are OK. Throw away that lingerie catalog and steer clear of other air-brushed media imagery that can give you a negative body image.
Dress the part. Chances are you didn’t change into grubby clothes the second you got home from work before you had a baby, and you shouldn’t do so now. Invest in some comfortable loungewear that shows off your shape, such as camisoles and leggings.
Exercise regularly. Physical activity not only helps you lose weight and reduce stress; it releases powerful endorphins that will leave you feeling sexy and strong.
Take some time for yourself. Go to the spa for a massage, manicure, pedicure, and/or a bikini wax. Doing so will make you feel more relaxed, boost your confidence, and remind you of the importance of self-care.
Light some candles. Studies have shown that candles scented with vanilla, musk, ginger, peppermint, ylang ylang, and nutmeg can be aphrodisiacs. Additionally, candlelight itself brings a figure-flattering and cozy glow to the room.
What methods have you used to invigorate your sex life? You can share by posting in the comments below.
The idea of getting fit while juggling the responsibilities of parenting a newborn can seem overwhelming. Thankfully, the process of taking off the extra weight should be a gradual one. You can expect to lose four to seven pounds of water weight after returning home as your uterus returns to normal size. From there, it is recommended you give yourself 6 months to return to your fighting weight.
According to WebMD, it’s very important you not rush into cutting calories or extreme exercise immediately. They liken pregnancy to running a marathon daily for nine months. Even if you took extremely good care of yourself during that time, your body will still need to replenish energy and nutrients sapped by the experience. Therefore, it is advised you not start to restrict calorie intake until at least 6 weeks after the baby is born. During the first six weeks, you should eat 1800-2000 calories per day. After 6 weeks, you will still need to maintain your calorie intake at that level if you are breastfeeding. If you are not breastfeeding, you can cut back roughly 500 calories per day, aiming to lose no more than one pound per week.
While dieting is discouraged, exercising should most definitely be on your to-do list. Research has shown that exercise can not only help you regain your pre-pregnancy shape, but increase your energy level and decrease your risk of post-partum depression. WebMD encourages you to check with your doctor before beginning your exercise program. Once medically cleared, you don’t want to push the difficulty level up too quickly. Doctors warn that you should not perform any exercise that puts major strain on your joints within the first 6-8 weeks. Therefore, a good way to get started is simply by taking daily walks while pushing your baby in the stroller. Once you feel stronger, start to add back in exercises you did during your third trimester, and then slowly work backward until you have returned to your pre-pregnancy routine. At any point, if you experience pain or discomfort as a result of exercise, stop and check in with your doctor. You can work together to find a routine that is right for you.