The Pros and Cons of Having Sex during Your Period

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Many people consider “that time of the month” to be off limits for sex.  In fact, it could be a topic you and your partner have never actually discussed.  If having sex during menstruation is something you are willing to try, you should open up a dialogue with your partner to see if it is something they are interested in as well.  Below are some potential positives and negatives to consider when having sex during your period.

There are several pros to having sex during menstruation which may not have occurred to you.  First, to state it bluntly, your menstrual blood provides natural lubrication that can improve the sensation for both parties involved.  Next, the changes in a women’s hormones during menstruation can result in an increased libido and higher sensitivity, which leads to more enjoyable sex for you.  Third, you may find that having sex during your period will actually shorten its length, as the act of having an orgasm creates muscle spasms in the uterus which will cause the uterine lining to shed more quickly.  Finally, those very same orgasms cause a release of endorphins that can help relieve your period-related cramps.

On the flip side, there are some cons to sex during your period.  First, it is definitely a messier proposition.  Therefore, you may want to limit your activity to lighter flow days, avoid any positions that require you to be on top, and either have sex in the shower, or place a towel underneath you to absorb any liquid and protect your bedding from stains.   Next, a possibility exists that one or both of you will become uncomfortable, bringing an end to the intimacy.  Simply agree in advance that if this happens, it’s OK with both of you not to continue, and credit yourself for trying something new.



Mid-Cycle Spotting

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It can be very frustrating to discover you are experiencing bleeding between periods, which is commonly known as mid-cycle spotting.  Not only is mid-cycle spotting an inconvenience, but it can be a sign of a variety of medical conditions.  The following are some possible causes of this condition.

  • Implantation Bleeding– Up to 33% of women will experience implantation bleeding 6 to 12 days after conceiving.  This is light pink to brown discharge that occurs when the egg implants itself in the uterine lining.  It is extremely light bleeding that may occur just once, and definitely will not exceed two days in length.
  • Cervical Abnormalities– Slight mid-cycle bleeding can be a sign of Human Papillomavirus, cervical fibroids, or cancer.
  • Hormone Imbalance– Many different health issues, such as endometriosis, Polycystic Ovarian Syndrome, and thyroid problems can lead to a disruption in the delicate balance of hormones in your body and cause mid-cycle bleeding.
  • Ovarian Cysts– If your mid-cycle bleeding is accompanied by a sharp pain on either side of your lower abdomen, it could be the result of a ruptured ovarian cyst.
  • Sexual Intercourse– The closer your body is to ovulating, the more sensitive your cervix becomes.  Having sex during this sensitive time can actually cause mild damage to the cervix that produces bleeding.  If you see bright red blood after intercourse, this is the likely culprit.

Even if you feel you know the cause behind your mid-cycle spotting, it is a good idea to meet with your doctor to discuss it.  To prepare for the meeting, write down the days in your cycle in which the spotting occurs, how long it lasts, the color and amount of blood, and any other symptoms you experience at the same time.  A firm medical diagnosis will allow you and your physician to discuss ways of preventing mid-cycle spotting in the future.



A life changed by Lady Comp…what it feels like to be natural

“I just want to say how much Lady Comp has changed my life.  Approaching my wedding back in 2011 I spent months trying pill after pill, side effect after side effect with no luck.  I felt stuck, stuck with going to have to deal with the side effects.  Like a lot of girls I didn’t know much about natural birth control methods.  I had always been fed the “you have to go on the pill” line.

After trying pill after pill I ended up on the mini pill because I couldn’t take estrogen.  The mini pill wasn’t as bad but over time I continued with side effects and they seemed to get worse every month.  I was on the mini pill for almost 2 years and frankly tired of it.  My body couldn’t handle the hormones anymore.  I had so many side effects including spotting all the time, headaches, exhaustion, complete loss of libido, anxiety, and constant dizziness.  I even got to the point where I would get sick and feel completely weird if I ate too much sugar or salty foods.  I felt like I couldn’t eat anything anymore.  I also started having random reactions that got pretty scary and the doctors couldn’t figure out what was wrong.  At that point I felt like this was going to be my life forever or until I decided to have kids.

So I started searching.  I knew there had to be something else.  I wasn’t about to try anything like the nuva ring or IUD’s.  I wanted a natural option.  That’s when a friend of mine recommended the Lady Comp.  She said one of her cousins used it and loved it.  At first I was pretty skeptical and thought how could that work…  I debated it for months trying to figure out if I wanted to chance it and pay the expense to try it.

After a lot of debate I broke down and decided to get one, and it was great to have the option of making payments to pay it off!   I have to say it was one of the best decisions I’ve made in my life!  Going off the pill was like getting back to who I was.  I lost myself being on all those hormones and being so depressed from being sick all the time.  It took a few months to get back to a normal cycle and for the Lady Comp to start being able to tell me about my cycle but once it did it worked great!

My cycle isn’t a normal cycle like most girls.  I seem to have longer cycles like 35-40 days and ovulate later than most.  I was afraid the Lady Comp wasn’t going to work for me.  But boy was I wrong!  It has been amazing to know when I ovulate and I can almost pinpoint to the day when I’m going to get my period.  Which was a huge change from being on the mini pill, I never knew when I was going to get my period and sometimes didn’t get it for 3-4 months!

Taking my temperature at the same time every day isn’t as hard as I thought it was going to be.  I keep a chart along with the Lady Comp, which is optional, but for me it’s been a great learning process.  I’ve learned more about my cycle in the last 8 months then I ever knew.  I think so many girls are led to believe that you have to be taking hormones to prevent pregnancy, but it’s just not true.

This method isn’t for everyone understandably but for many like me it’s wonderful!  If you’re trying to find a natural method and learn more about your cycle Lady Comp is the way to go.  Even though the price is a bit high it’s worth every penny.  Lady Comp gave me my life back. I was never myself on the pill and I was so glad to be rid of it.

I’ve now been using the Lady Comp for about 8 months and I absolutely love it!  I also love knowing when I ovulate so one day when my husband and I do decide to have kids it can be a big help and we have the option of switching to the Baby Comp.  The Lady Comp customer service is some of the best out there!  They are so helpful and caring!

Thank you Lady Comp for letting me get back to a healthy natural life!”

~ Brittany

Menstrual Cycle Positives

When women discuss their menstrual cycle, it is usually about some negative aspect of it.  After all, the start of your period brings on a full range of emotion, from the discomfort of premenstrual syndrome to the disappointment of not being pregnant.  While your monthly cycle is all too often unwelcome, we would like you to consider the ways in which it can be used to your benefit.

In previous postings, we have discussed how estrogen, progesterone, testosterone, follicle-stimulating hormone, luteinizing hormone, and gonadotropin-releasing hormone fluctuate in your body throughout your cycle.  By tracking your cycle and being attuned to your body, you can schedule certain tasks on days when your body’s hormones will give you optimal performance.  Below you will find some examples of ways you can maximize your menstrual cycle.

  • You can make the most of exercising on days when your estrogen levels are lower,
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    which is typically days 4-11 in a 28 day cycle.  At this time, you will find high-intensity exercise easier, resulting in lower breathing and heart rates throughout.  This is because the decreased estrogen allows for more efficient burning of the glycogen in your body, which provides quick energy.

  • Many women report feeling more creative when they are menstruating, which would be the result of the calm brought on by the drop in estrogen and progesterone levels. If you are a writer, artist, craftswoman, etc., you may find this time to be very productive for you.
  • In her book, “The Optimized Woman: If You Want to Get Ahead, Get a Cycle,” author Miranda Gray posits that women’s skillsets change throughout their monthly cycle, and describes how awareness of this can increase productivity and effectiveness in the workplace. Gray states that abilities that you will find heightened at various times of the month include logical reasoning, strategic planning, critical analysis, team building, project initiation and management, and outside of the box thinking.

Have you noticed times in your cycle where your abilities are heightened?  Tell us more in the comments below.


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Yoga and Your Menstrual Cycle

Yoga is a spiritual science founded in Hinduism, Buddhism, and Jainism.  It is a series of women-doing-yogaphysical postures, varying in difficulty level, which help you become more in tune with your body and at peace with your surroundings.  Yoga has become extremely popular in the United States due to its dual purpose of helping you get fit while also calming your mind.  For women, yoga can play a positive role in various aspects of your menstrual cycle.

  • PMS Relief– Yoga can be used for the wide variety of symptoms that accompany premenstrual syndrome.  First, it boosts circulation, which can relieve the buildup of fluid that causes bloating.  Next, the focus on deep breathing increases oxygen flow to your tissues, which eases uncomfortable cramping.  Finally, yoga requires focus, which, if nothing else, will take your mind off how you are feeling for a blissful period of time.  Poses to try include child’s pose, cat pose, and bridge pose.
  • Fertility– While yoga is not a direct treatment for infertility, it has elements which can be helpful to a woman struggling with fertility issues.  First, it helps to increase blood flow in the pelvic area.  Next, it helps those practicing it achieve tranquility.  This is important because the stress that occurs in most people experiencing infertility can only exacerbate the issue further.
  • Regulating Hormones– Yoga works by pressurizing and depressurizing specific glands in your body, and in doing so, can help regulate your hormonal secretions.  Therefore, the regular practice of yoga has a positive impact on your endocrine system.  As a result, yoga can help you decrease hot flashes brought on by menopause, boost your libido, improve memory, eliminate good cravings, reduce and manage pain, combat fatigue, lower anxiety, decrease mood swings, lower depression, balance your thyroid, and much more.




Foods Known to Exacerbate Menstrual Disorders

Premenstrual syndrome (PMS).  Endometriosis.  Dysmenorrhea.  Fibroids.  Cysts.  Pelvic Inflammatory Disease.  Irregular cycles.  These words are all too familiar to the female population.  Even if you do not suffer from one yourself, chances are you know someone who does.  Interestingly, some simple dietary changes could alleviate symptoms associated with these disorders.

The primary recommendation is to limit foods that introduce hormones into your body.  First, you should minimize soy in your diet.  Soy contains natural phytoestrogens, which are plant-based hormones similar to those in women.  As such, they can disrupt your hormones by triggering your estrogen receptors without actually adding estrogen to your body.  This can result in increased bloating, fatigue, clotting, and cramping.

Next, you should limit milk products from cows injected with bovine somatotropin, a growth hormone injected into cows weekly to increase their milk.  This hormone has been linked to increased bleeding, menstrual headaches, and breast tenderness in women who ingest it.  This is a slightly more difficult suggestion to follow, as the FDA does not require companies who inject their cows to disclose this fact.  You will need to seek out a company who has pledged not to use it on their cows.

Another recommendation is to increase certain vitamins and minerals:

  • Magnesium has been shown to control bloating, fatigue, breast tenderness, and hormone-related irritability.
  • Potassium is thought to improve symptoms of PMS and other menstrual disorders.
  • Calcium and Vitamin D, which are often found in the same foods, have been shown to reduce the incidence and severity of PMS symptoms. One study found that women who consumed an additional four servings of calcium-rich foods per day experienced a 50% reduction in PMS symptoms.

Big picture, a healthy diet has been known to alleviate many medical ailments.  Strive for a diet rich in whole grains, fresh vegetables and fruits, legumes, nuts, and seeds.  Add in plenty of water to help flush toxins from your body, and you just may find your overall health improves.