What Women Want

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Men may often find themselves asking what it is that women really want.  This is such a common topic that it was the subject of a 2000 comedy film in which Mel Gibson obtained the ability to hear what women were thinking.  But men, please know that you do not need to develop telepathic abilities to keep your wife or girlfriend happy. Fundamentally, women want the same things you do.

1)      Respect.  Women want to know that you respect their choices in life, including their careers, interests, friends, and yes, even wardrobe selections.  When you do disagree with a choice, do so with honesty tempered by fairness, kindness, and consideration of feelings.

2)      Time. Women value the time you spend together, as well as the time you invest in your relationship.  Modern couples often lead a hectic lifestyle, so taking a moment to put the dishes away or otherwise make a woman’s life easier will be greatly appreciated.

3)      Romance.  Women do understand that not every night you spend together will be as fun and exciting as when you first started to date, but at the same time, enjoy it when you don’t give up trying to add something special to your nights together.  So continue to open doors for her, buy her flowers for no reason, and light the candles on your dinner table every so often.

4)       Engagement.  Here, we don’t necessarily mean putting a ring on it, although that is usually appreciated.  Rather, we are referring to being fully mentally present when the two of you are together.  Essentially, when a woman is talking, she wants to know you are both listening and interested in what she has to say.

5)      Communication.  Not only do women want you to hear and understand them, they want to hear and understand you as well.  Don’t be afraid to share the details of your day, no matter how boring you think they are, as this type of sharing deepens intimacy.

 

Source: http://www.yourtango.com/200925879/10-simple-things-women-want

Barrier Methods of Birth Control

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As a Lady-Comp user, if you are currently not trying to conceive, you may be looking for a form of birth control to use on your fertile days.  If so, one option that may interest you are barrier methods, which are various forms of birth control that block sperm from entering your uterus.  The types of barrier methods include the male condom, female condom, diaphragm, sponge, and cervical cap.  Any of these methods can be strengthened by also using a spermicide, which will kill most of the sperm as it enters your vagina, leaving fewer sperm for the barrier method to block.

The following are some advantages of using barrier methods.

  • No pre-planning is required. They can be put in place at the time of sexual intercourse.
  • They are temporary methods which have no long term effects on the fertility of either partner.
  • They are safe to use while you are breastfeeding.
  • Unlike hormonal birth control, they cannot aggravate medical conditions such as diabetes or high blood pressure.
  • They are available without a prescription.

The following are some disadvantages of using barrier methods.

  • Aside from the male condom, other forms of barrier methods have little to no effectiveness in preventing sexually transmitted diseases.
  • The combination of diaphragms and spermicides has been linked to causing urinary tract infections.
  • Some people suffer from allergies to nonoxynol-9, which is the primary ingredient in most spermicides.
  • Condoms may tear or fall off due to improper size or placement.
  • Some people suffer from a latex allergy, in which case they must use condoms made of polyurethane, which is slightly less effective.
  • Some people may feel uncomfortable or embarrassed interrupting foreplay to implement the use of a barrier method.

Ultimately, the method you decide to use is a very personal decision.  If you are trying to decide which is right for you, talk with your physician and your partner.

 

 

Source: http://www.webmd.com/sex/birth-control/barrier-methods-of-birth-control-19059

Spice Up Your Sex Life with the Right Foods

spice up sexlife with the right foods

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Are you looking to spice things up in the bedroom?  If so, a romantic evening with some carefully chosen foods may be just the ticket.  Yes, aphrodisiacs do exist! Read on to learn more.

  • Asparagus and Avocados– These foods contain vitamin E, which helps your body produce estrogen, progesterone, and testosterone.  These hormones help to create sexual responses.
  • Bananas– These fruits are popular aphrodisiacs due to their suggestive, phallic shape.  They also contain an enzyme, called bromelain, which is thought to be sexually stimulating for men, and potassium, which is believed to increase the intensity of orgasm.
  • Caviar and Oysters– These treats contain high amounts of zinc, which stimulates the production of testosterone.  (Remember that testosterone plays a role in sexual functioning for both women and men.)
  • Champagne– A moderate amount of this alcoholic beverage provides a feeling of warmth and giddiness that affects women more strongly than men.
  • Chili Peppers– The capsaicin found in hot peppers increases blood circulation and stimulates nerve endings, making you more sensitive to the touch.
  • Dark Chocolate– This much loved item contains a chemical called phenylethylamine, a stimulant that increase your feelings of satisfaction and euphoria.
  • Pomegranates and Red Wine– These contain powerful antioxidants, which protect the lining of your blood vessels and help blood move through them more efficiently. This can result in increased genital sensitivity.
  • Spices– Cloves, ginger, horseradish, nutmeg, oregano, and thyme are all spices containing nutritional components that help you maintain your overall health, including your sexual health.

Finally, scents can also serve to stimulate your sexual desire.  You will notice many perfumes and colognes contain the scents of cinnamon, orange, vanilla, and musk, all of which research has shown increase sexual desire in both women and men.

 

Sources: http://www.mydailymoment.com/love/intimacy/best_aphrodisiacs_to_spice_up_your_sex_life.php?page=1

http://www.cosmopolitan.com/sex-love/tips-moves/aphrodisiac-foods-0509#slide-1

Why are there so Many Red Days?

red light trafficIf you are a Lady-Comp user, you are already familiar with its notation system.  After you take your temperature each morning, the unit will flash a green light if you are infertile, and a red light if you are fertile.  Yellow lights, which should always be treated as red, may be seen during transition days or if your temperature is fluctuating abnormally.  Because every woman’s cycle may vary by a few days and ovulation may also vary, the typical user can expect 8 to 10 red light days over the course of her cycle.  You will find these occur in the days leading up to ovulation and for 48 to 72 hours after ovulation has taken place.

If you have noticed an increase in red light days, it is because ovulation was not detected for you.  There are four reasons why this might occur.

1)      You missed a temperature reading.  If you miss a daily temperature reading, especially close to your ovulation time, Lady-Comp will have difficulty confirming your fertile days.  If you are unsure if you have taken your temperature daily, Lady-Comp has a feature which will allow you to check this.

2)      You did not ovulate.  As a healthy woman, you can experience the occasional month in which you do not ovulate.  If Lady-Comp is unable to isolate your fertile days, it will issue you red and yellow lights as a precaution.

3)      Your ovulation is delayed.  Many factors, including stress, travel, or change in exercise routine, can cause a delay in ovulation.  Lady-Comp will continue to give you red and/or yellow lights until ovulation has been confirmed.

You have atypical temperature patterns.  Most women experience an increase in their basal body temperature when they are ovulating. However, not all do.  If this is the case with you, be assured you can still use Lady-Comp effectively.  You will just want to be sure that you secure your basal body temperature during the same hour each day, and do not miss any of your daily readings.

Being on the Pill Could Make You Choose a Boring Lover

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Photo courtesy of FrenchTribune.com

It’s a common misconception that women who choose not to take hormonal birth control have boring sex lives due to the fear of pregnancy.  In actuality, with so many alternative contraceptive methods available, this is simply not the case.  However, a 2011 study revealed that things may actually be the other way around, and that taking hormonal birth control can lead women to choose boring lovers as partners.

In the study, which was published in the October 12, 2011 edition of the Proceedings of the Royal Society B, researchers surveyed 2,5000 heterosexual women who had one child, and asked them questions about the child’s biological father.  Approximately 1,000 participants were taking hormonal birth control, while the other 1,500 were not using hormonal contraception.  The results showed that women who were taking hormonal birth control were less sexually satisfied overall.  They found their lovers less attractive and were generally more likely to initiate a separation.

The researchers developed a theory on why this might be true.  Other studies have shown clearly that a woman’s hormones fluctuate throughout the menstrual cycle, and these fluctuations actually impact the way women react to men as candidates for dating and mating.  The closer a woman is to ovulation, the more drawn she is to masculine men.  However, women on hormonal birth control do not experience these hormone fluctuations throughout the month, and are therefore more likely to be drawn to factors such a person’s financial stability, rather than to their raw physical attractiveness.

However, the results were not entirely negative.  The researchers found that women on hormonal birth control found their partner to have excellent paternal traits, such as being caring and reliable.  They also found their relationships lasted two years longer on average.

Sources:

http://www.news-medical.net/news/20111016/Women-on-birth-control-may-be-dating-sexually-boring-but-otherwise-caring-men-Study.aspx

http://vitals.nbcnews.com/_news/2011/10/13/8290413-women-on-the-pill-pick-boring-lovers-good-partners-study-claims

Loving an All-Natural Woman

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Photo courtesy of Consciouslifenews.com

Men, let’s face it.  When it comes to birth control options, the sex education you receive and the media you take in on a daily basis send the message that in terms of preventing pregnancy, the birth control pill is your best choice.  You are sent this message repeatedly to the point where if you meet a woman who is not taking the pill, you may find it odd.  However, there are many reasons you should be glad that your partner prefers non-hormonal options of birth control.

First, hormonal birth control can cause a variety of health issues in the woman you love.  For example, if the pill is taken before a woman’s first pregnancy, her risk of developing breast cancer is increased by 44%.  Birth control pill use also increases the risks of developing cervical cancer, liver tumors, blood clots to the lung, and heart attacks.  In terms of everyday side effects, hormonal birth control can cause weight gain, headache, dizziness, breast tenderness, migraine headaches, nausea, and mood swings.

There is one side effect of hormonal birth control use that can cause a great impact on your day to day relationship, and that is loss of interest in sex.  Birth control pills work by suppressing ovulation (and therefore her natural cyclical hormones) and essentially tricking her body into thinking it is pregnant. Multiple studies have linked the pill to decreased levels of testosterone, which is the fuel source for the female libido.

Finally, there is evidence to support that men find women more attractive when they are ovulating. In a 2012 study published in the journal Hormones and Behavior, researchers showed 500 men photos of 202 women’s faces while playing them recordings of the women’s voices at two different points in their menstrual cycles.  The men found the faces and voices more attractive when the women’s voices were recorded during ovulation.

In conclusion, there is definite research to support that if your partner is not on hormonal birth control, she will be healthier, and your sex life will be the better for it. What’s not to love?

 

Sources:

http://onemoresoul.com/contraception-abortion/risks-consequences/problems-associated-with-hormonal-birth-control.html

http://health.howstuffworks.com/sexual-health/contraception/5-ways-birth-control-affects-love-life.htm#page=3

http://www.fitnessmagazine.com/health/sex/birth-control-more/birth-control-pills-hurting-sex-drive/

http://www.livescience.com/25457-fertile-women-attractiveness.html

The Pros and Cons of Having Sex during Your Period

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Photo courtesy of Getty Images Paul Bradbury

Many people consider “that time of the month” to be off limits for sex.  In fact, it could be a topic you and your partner have never actually discussed.  If having sex during menstruation is something you are willing to try, you should open up a dialogue with your partner to see if it is something they are interested in as well.  Below are some potential positives and negatives to consider when having sex during your period.

There are several pros to having sex during menstruation which may not have occurred to you.  First, to state it bluntly, your menstrual blood provides natural lubrication that can improve the sensation for both parties involved.  Next, the changes in a women’s hormones during menstruation can result in an increased libido and higher sensitivity, which leads to more enjoyable sex for you.  Third, you may find that having sex during your period will actually shorten its length, as the act of having an orgasm creates muscle spasms in the uterus which will cause the uterine lining to shed more quickly.  Finally, those very same orgasms cause a release of endorphins that can help relieve your period-related cramps.

On the flip side, there are some cons to sex during your period.  First, it is definitely a messier proposition.  Therefore, you may want to limit your activity to lighter flow days, avoid any positions that require you to be on top, and either have sex in the shower, or place a towel underneath you to absorb any liquid and protect your bedding from stains.   Next, a possibility exists that one or both of you will become uncomfortable, bringing an end to the intimacy.  Simply agree in advance that if this happens, it’s OK with both of you not to continue, and credit yourself for trying something new.

 

Source: http://blogdailyherald.com/2013/04/15/sextion-sex-on-your-period/

The Birth Control Pill is Impacting Your Sense of Smell

Relaxed Girl At Peace Smelling A FlowerIn previous articles, we have discussed in-depth the negative impact synthetic hormones in the birth control pill, patch, and ring can have on a woman’s body.  However, a recent study has produced a new and shocking side effect of hormonal birth control use.

In the study, researcher Salvatore Caruso, a professor in the Department of Gynecological Science at the Ospedale S. Bambino in Italy, tested the sense of smell of 60 women who were not taking the birth control pill at a variety of points in their menstrual cycles.  He found that the women’s sense of smell was most sensitive at the exact time they were most fertile, which was when they were ovulating.  The same women were then put on birth control pills for three months and retested.  Caruso discovered that the increased sense of smell previously seen during ovulation was gone.

While it is already unpleasant to know that hormonal birth control can change a natural process inherent to our enjoyment of life, the impact extends far greater than the basic results when you consider the scientific tie between smell and libido.  The areas of the brain that control ovaries and sense of smell are in close proximity to each other in the brain.  Researchers have found that some women born without a sense of smell actually experience no activity at all in their ovaries.

Furthermore, science has proven that human beings choose their partners based on pheromones.  While you might not know you are drawn to someone due to their smell, your nose is picking up receptors that tell you if the person you are with will make a good mate for conceiving, which is typically someone genetically dissimilar to yourself.  Craig Roberts, a lecturer of Psychology at the University of Newcastle, conducted a study of odor preferences across 100 women, and found those who were taking hormonal birth control were actually drawn to genetically similar mates instead.  The devastating results of this are infertility issues and a feeling of being less attracted to your mate when you stop taking the pill.  Therefore, it seems that if you have hopes of conceiving someday, hormonal birth control is not the optimal choice for you today.

 

Sources: http://abcnews.go.com/Health/story?id=117158, http://www.viewzone.com/estrogen.html

Natural Ways to Elevate Your Sex Life

As a Lady-Comp user, you have made a conscious choice to take charge of your fertility in an all-natural way, without the use of harmful synthetic hormones.  Therefore, we thought you would enjoy learning about some all-natural ways to enhance your enjoyment in the bedroom.

  • Edible Aphrodisiacs– Your bedroom sessions can be amped up just by incorporating healthy fruits, vegetables, and spices into your dinners.  Women’s sexual desire is increased by asparagus, avocado, and artichoke, while cinnamon, cayenne, mango, pumpkin, and squash serve as sexual enhancers for men.  Both men and women will be turned on by ginger and basil.
  • Organic Lubricants– Sexual lubricants found in your local market or drugstore typically contain parabens, which research has shown to disrupt hormone function. Parabens bind themselves to estrogen receptors, mimicking an increase in estrogen in the body.  They have therefore been linked to reproductive toxicity and increased risk of breast cancer.  Other commercial lubricants contain glycerin, which is known to leach moisture from the vagina.  This not only can make sex uncomfortable, but it can increase the risk of yeast infection and other sexually transmitted infections.  Instead, search online to find an organic, water-based lubricant to enhance your pleasure.
  • Make Your Own Massage Oil– The same coconut oil you have in your kitchen Spa oilcupboard for cooking makes a wonderful, all-natural massage oil.  Consider adding a few drops of some essential oils to boost the effect. Neroli oil will stimulate libido, while ylang-ylang and lavender reduce stress.
  • Sustainable Condoms– Should you choose to use condoms on your fertile days, you will be happy to know that you can now purchase some that are environmentally friendly.  Sir Richard’s Condom Company has created a condom of sustainable latex that has been certified Vegan by People for the Ethical Treatment of Animals (PETA).  You can find a store near you selling the brand by visiting https://sirrichards.com/locator/.

 

Source: http://www.huffingtonpost.com/stefanie-iris-weiss/sex_b_1997394.html

Fertility Awareness and Your Sex Drive

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Photo from iStockPhoto.com via About.com

While you may not realize it, everyday life stresses can greatly impact your libido. Below are just a few of the ways in which they may do so:

  • Your body’s natural reaction to stress– When you feel stressed, your body will go into what is known as a “fight or flight response,” releasing cortisol and adrenaline into your blood.  If this happens to you on a regular basis, you can develop the condition of chronic stress, which interferes with the hormones in your body particular to your sexual response.
  • Your busy lifestyle– In the world today, everyone finds themselves juggling multiple roles and responsibilities. Trying to balance work and parenting with chores leaves very little time for recreational activities.  As a result, your busily working mind and very tired body will have a difficult time getting in the mood for sex.
  • Relationship stress– This is perhaps the most vicious cycle of all.  Relationship conflict can cause stress, which leads to additional circumstances causing more stress, leaving no room for your body to charge up its libido. Ironically, low libido can, in and of itself, be a major cause of relationship stress, and arguing about it can make a couple want to have sex even less.

Unfortunately, infertility is a major cause of stress in relationships. Working through such issues often involves feelings of grief, loss of control, loss of self-esteem, financial strain, and sexual pressure.  But what if you were able to reach a place where you felt fully in control of your fertility awareness?  With the stress of the unknown behind you, you would be empowered and feel free to be an open and loving sexual partner.  With Lady-Comp, an intelligent fertility monitor that learns, analyzes, and indicates your fertile days with 99.3% accuracy based on your daily body temperature and data you provide, you can start to take control of your sex life today.

 

Sources:

http://stress.about.com/od/sex/a/low_libido.htm

http://www.cchs.net/health/health-info/docs/0800/0810.asp?index=4332

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