When a couple is trying to conceive a baby, it can be a thrilling time in their lives. However, as months continue to go by with no pregnancy, the hope and excitement can turn to stress and anxiety. While couples may know that infertility is possible, actually dealing with it can result in an unexpected emotional roller coaster. It is not unusual for one or both partners to experience the following:
- A sense of loss and disappointment
- Physical symptoms of depression or grief, such as headaches, low energy, irritability, inability to concentrate, extreme sadness, and insomnia
- Denial or numbness
- Jealousy towards those who are able to get pregnant easily
- Feelings of inadequacy, guilt, or shame
Unfortunately, infertility can also put a huge strain on a couple’s relationship, as each person struggles to cope with their own feelings. Each may have a fear that their partner will leave them to have a child with someone else. Couples undergoing fertility treatments may experience financial strain, or find they are not in agreement about which options they are willing to try. Furthermore, after endless attempts at trying to conceive, having sex can feel less like fun and more like a chore, adding additional emotional difficulties.
If you are experiencing infertility, the most important thing you can do as a couple is to keep the lines of communication open and be totally honest about what you are feeling. Take time for each other, and do not let infertility become the entire focus of your existence. Make it a point to find fun activities you can do together to help release some tension and relax. Finally, if you are experiencing any of these emotional issues, please know that you are not alone, and that professional help is available to you both as individuals and as a couple.