Feel Extra Connected this Valentine’s Day

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Valentine’s Day is a holiday loaded with emotional expectation, and chances are not all of your Valentine’s Days have turned out exactly like the fairy-tale that you wanted.  However, you can strengthen your emotional and physical relationship with your partner on a daily basis with some simple actions guaranteed to keep the spark in your relationship ignited every day of the year.  Read on for suggestions.

  • Always ask your partner about their day.  Couples who share their daily events with each other, both good and bad, are rewarded with increased feelings of intimacy and connection.
  • Embrace inside jokes just between the two of you.  Psychologists have found that when couples share a laugh over the same thing, each feels validated by the other.
  • Make time for your partner’s friends and family members.  Research has shown that the more a couple’s friends and family intermingle, the happier their relationship.
  • Keep sex a priority.  Both physical and emotional intimacy are critical to a successful relationship.
  • Make sure you are really listening to your partner, and not just waiting for your turn to talk.  A study conducted by Harvard University researchers has discovered that the more empathy and affection a couple expresses to each other, the more likely they are to stay together.
  • Don’t let fights define you.  Understand that when you are as close to an individual as you are to your partner, it is natural to become irritated with them at times.  That being said, if you are going to argue, it is important to fight fairly.  Never resort to yelling or name-calling.  More importantly, try to frame your statements in a non-accusatory manner, and focus on moving forward as a couple, rather than just expressing how you feel individually.  Try using statements that start with the words we, us, or our.

Self Fertility Massage

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If you are considering conceiving a child in the near future, chances are you are already preparing your body in the recommended ways, such as eating more healthily, taking folic acid supplements, and cutting back on caffeine.  However, there is something else you can be doing to prepare your body that you may not have heard of, which is Self Fertility Massage.  Self Fertility Massage is a trademarked series of massage techniques designed to balance your body, increase circulation, boost your immune system, and decrease stress.

Below are some of the benefits for your reproductive system if you regularly receive fertility massage:

  • Increased ability of your liver to remove excess hormones
  • The breaking up of scar tissues in your reproductive organs
  • Hormonal balance
  • An improved endocrine system
  • Your body’s improved ability to remove old blood and tissue, and bring fresh blood to the uterus
  • Increased circulation to the cervix and uterus
  • Reduction of stress and the hormones which cause it
  • Repositioning of a tilted uterus

Self Fertility Massage can help with a variety of issues which impact fertility, such as:

  • It is a non-invasive option for assisting women who have blocked fallopian tubes.  The massage will gently break up any adhesions and encourage the body to rid itself of unneeded tissues.
  • Self Fertility Massage can help in a number of ways for people suffering from endometriosis.  As above, it can help to break up adhesions and shed the body of the excess endometrial tissue.  It can also help to decrease inflammation, and increase endorphins that will help reduce the associated pain.
  • Self Fertility Massage increases circulation in the ovaries, which in turn provides your eggs with the oxygen and antioxidants needed to be healthy and strong.
  • Poly Cystic Ovary Syndrome occurs when a lack of ovulation causes cysts to grow in the ovaries and creates a hormonal imbalance.  Massage helps to restore your hormonal feedback loop which should help your body to return to a more regular ovulation schedule.

Natural Ways to Detox Your Body

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If you are readying your body for the possibility of conception, it is a perfect time to do a fertility cleanse.  The concept behind a fertility cleanse is to encourage the liver to let go of toxins and excess hormones.  It also helps to increase circulation in the uterus, and assist it in naturally removing any old blood it is retaining.  There are a number of natural therapies you can use to supplement a fertility cleanse and support your body during the process.  Some examples are below.

  • Yoga impacts the endocrine system which controls the hormones of your body.  Practicing yoga regularly can help you to release physical blockages in your reproductive organs and balance your hormones.  It can also be effective in helping you stay centered and reduce your stress while you are trying to conceive.
  • Exfoliating your skin can increase circulation, aid in liver detoxification, and help move lymph through your bloodstream.  For maximum results, scrub your skin in circular motions towards the heart, then follow by taking a bath or shower.
  • Castor oil has been used for hundreds of years to help heal issues with the reproductive system.  Soak a cloth on castor oil, place it directly on your skin, and cover it with a heating pad or hot water bottle.  This will enhance circulation and promote healing of the organs beneath wherever it is placed.
  • Fertility massage consists of massage techniques designed to increase circulation in your ovaries and uterus, break up any adhesions that may be present, relax hip muscles and organs, and bring a tilted uterus back into alignment.  A web search will help you find many articles and videos describing these techniques.

After completing any of these activities, it is important to remember to drink plenty of water. This will help to accelerate the release of toxins and flush them out of your body.

Your Mind Can Impact Your Fertility

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When you and your partner make the initial decision to try for a baby, it is a very exciting time filled with fun and promise.  At the start, it is likely you have formed some idea in your head regarding how long it will take you to conceive.  However, if that expectation isn’t met, what was once fun can seem like a chore, and your positive attitude is slowly replaced by stress.  According to WebMD, stress plays a part in up to 30% of all infertility cases.

If you are struggling to conceive and find your stress increasing, the most important thing to do is to consult with a doctor.  Don’t let fear of an infertility diagnosis prevent you from finding out what is really going on with your body, and how to deal with it.  The good news is that even with an infertility diagnosis, medical advancements provide hope like never before.  WebMD reports that for the majority of infertility causes, there is a medical treatment that will increase your chance of pregnancy by 60 to 70 percent.

If your doctor finds no medical problems for your difficulty in conceiving, it is very likely stress is playing into your struggles.  Doctors recommend incorporating relaxation strategies, such as meditation, massage, and yoga into your daily life.  You may also try what is known as a “relaxation month,” which is a month in which you and your partner agree that you will take a break from your attempts to actively pursue conception.

Doctors also recommend reducing stress by getting back in touch with the reason you wanted to conceive in the first place, which is your love for your partner.  Go out on dates, have fun together, and make your lovemaking a romantic event, rather than an obligation to fulfill on your calendar.  Bring love and fun back into your life and let nature take its course.

Stress and Your Fertility

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As a society, Americans are used to spreading themselves too thin.  In June 2012, The New York Daily News reported on a study showing that stress levels in America had risen 30% over the previous 30 years!  Stress has unfortunately become ingrained into our daily lives.  However, if you are trying to become pregnant, it is definitely time to step back and examine your stress levels.

Stress can prevent you from conceiving in a variety of ways: Continue reading

How Lifestyle Choices can Impact Male Fertility

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If you to ask a random individual, chances are they would know at least a few of the things women should avoid when they are trying to conceive, such as alcohol and caffeine.  However, it is not as commonly known that certain everyday choices can have an impact on male fertility.  Men, read on to learn more about items which can impact male virility. Continue reading

Healthy Eating Tips for the New Year

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One of the most common New Year’s resolutions is to develop more healthy habits, such as joining a gym or eating more nutritious meals.  If you desire to eat healthier in the coming year, the United States Department of Agriculture has given you a great head start with their Healthy Eating Tips website.  Below are some of their suggestions to start a healthier diet. Continue reading

Have a Low-Stress Holiday Season

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The holiday season is a wonderful time to gather with family and friends.  However, as your calendar starts to fill up with work events, parties, and time dedicated to shopping for gifts, you may find yourself feeling anything but jolly as you are being pulled in several different directions.  Below are some tips for helping you keep your stress level down during the flurry of activity that is the holiday season. Continue reading

Pros and Cons of Natural Family Planning (Part 3- Final)

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“Natural family planning” is any method of fertility management that uses natural methods to determine the time of the month when a woman is most fertile.  These methods help a woman to learn and recognize the changes to her body around her fertile time, and make decisions about having sex in accordance with if she is trying to postpone or achieve pregnancy.  As with any birth control method, there are things about it that you may feel are advantages or disadvantages to you personally.  Below are some things about natural family planning methods to keep in mind. Continue reading

Myths about Natural Family Planning (Part 2)

myths about natural family planning“Natural Family Planning” is an umbrella term which encompasses natural forms of fertility management based on scientific research about women’s fertility cycles.  This includes the Basal Body Temperature, Ovulation, and Sympto-Thermal Methods, as well as the more technologically advanced Lady-Comp personal fertility computer.  Unfortunately, there are many pervasive myths about natural family planning that prevent some couples from trying it.  We will dispel some of those myths below. Continue reading